Coaching with Lisa
Updated: Feb 4, 2022
"If parents want tp give their child a gift, the best thing they can do is teach their children to love challenges, be intrigued by mistakes, enjoy effort, and keep on learning." That way, their children don't have to be slaves of praise. They will have a lifelong way to build and repair their own confidence."- Carol Dweck
As a parent, it is only natural to want what is best for your child, not only now, but especially as they develop further and into adulthood.
Teenagers, in particular, struggle a lot with pressure from society in order to be successful in categories such as school, athletics, clubs, and other extracurricular activities. A lot has changed in terms of social pressure over the years and teenagers are starting to be faced with opportunities that have the potential to impact their future from a young age and it is important that they are adequately prepared to respond to these offers in the healthiest way possible.
Teens face a tremendous amount of stress and pressure every day. As a parent, you may see that your child is struggling with stress. Oftentimes, this stress and pressure can make your teen withdraw and pull away from discussing their daily life. One of the biggest issues is their own self-doubt and lack of confidence.
Confidence is something that they can learn and develop. Having that confidence for a teenager is about knowing that they achieve their goals and going after those things that matter to them the most. The definition of self-confidence is being secure in yourself and your abilities. It's about trusting yourself, knowing you can experience any emotion, including failure, and knowing it's going to be ok. Teenagers, in particular, don't understand how to manage their minds, so often they feel out of control with their feelings and actions. This leads to being afraid of feeling emotions and not wanting to feel any negativity. As a result, they hide and withdraw.
Here are some examples of negative thinking:
Failure is weakness
I don't know how
I feel rejected
I need validation from others
I don't want to take risks and embarrass myself
Horrible things happen to only me
Nobody gets me
I'm different from everyone else
I feel alone
A confident person is not bossy or controlling. A confident person is not a know-it-all. A confident person doesn't have a problem with admitting when they are wrong or when they don't have the answer.
When a teenager has more confidence, you will see:
Taking more action
Talking to more people
Taking more risks
Believing beyond their capability
Seeing their future
If your teenager is to talking to you that does not mean they do not have questions or need help. A certified life coach can offer their expertise and objectivity to teenagers to teach them how to:
Determine a purpose, create a vision, establish goals and develop a plan.
Develop and maintain a positive mindset to manage anxiety, stress, and other negative thoughts.
Set boundaries in every aspect of their life (personal, relationships, friendships,family).
Turn mistakes and failures into learning opportunities.
Be authentic and develop healthy coping skills that practice mindfulness.
Make committed decisions that are beneficial to their individual needs and happiness.
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